We all have some degree of cognitive bias. It gives us our fundamental beliefs, after all. We need that foundation to interpret information so that we can understand it. That’s because to function in our day-to-day life, we must make sense of ourselves and our place in the world. So, when confronted by a new …
Cognitive Bias to Cognitive Dissonance: How Our Beliefs Direct Our Lives Read More »
Last week’s article was a thorough how-to on going no contact with toxic parents (here). I asked my group members if there was anything that hit home for them. Then I followed up by asking if they wanted to share their anonymous experiences. Five volunteered, but what truly surprised me was that their stories had …
Love Bombing, Parental Betrayal, and the Trauma Bond: A Group Interview Read More »
Good for you on finding this article! It means that you’re finally considering what you need instead of what your abuser needs. But finding this article also means you have many questions, which I will cover. You may wonder what no contact means and whether or not you are ready. You need to know how …
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The Cluster B’s (Trauma Glossary 1) are now demanding we stop calling it borderline or narcissistic abuse (because it’s a “mental illness”) and instead, call it “just abuse”. If you think for one minute, honoring this latest campaign will end their internet abuse, think again. I come from the pre-language days of the ’90’s and …
Debunking Their “Just Abuse” Argument: Affirmations to the C-PTSD Community Read More »
If you’ve tried to tell your story about Cluster B (Trauma Glossary 1) abuse anywhere online lately, chances are, you’re familiar with the swarm of hatred and vitriol. You have likely been called an ableist (Trauma Glossary 1) for demonizing a “mental illness”. To the outside observer, they are “just trolls” and the best way …
The Bastardization of Ableism: Complex-PTSD Advocates vs. Grifters Read More »
As if those who victim shame in your personal life aren’t enough, the world wide web has blown the doors wide open. The very thing that happened in childhood adversity is being played out on a grand scale. Once again, the abusers have assumed control. This time, it’s across social media. They flood the comments …
The Rise of the Abuser’s Culture: A History Lesson Read More »
Victim Shamers are those who have more sympathy for the abuser than the victim. They are the ones who have excuses for abusers and will make the victim feel responsible for the abuser’s behavior. It’s enough to make any survivor of Cluster B (Trauma Glossary 1) abuse feel just as attacked by their community as …
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Where the roles of the siblings are concerned, it’s best to think of it like being thrust into a play without an audition, much less, a script. There could be a specific role you wanted but you’re under orders from a tyrannical director to become the role you were assigned…or else! It’s opening night and …
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Covert Abuse is sneaky because it’s “legal” ways to get away with abusing the targeted person, as opposed to Overt Abuse, which can be illegal, but unfortunately, not in most cases. While covert abuse can remain just that, it shouldn’t be underestimated. After all, overt abuse is typically the result of covert abuse that has …
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