Forgiving someone for a mistake is beautiful. It shows acknowledgement that we all make mistakes and we can relate to it in some way. However, a lifetime of intentional cruelty is not a mistake. If we cannot imagine treating others the way that someone treated us, forgiveness tends to feel like the F-word. The truth …
Toxic Forgiveness Stagnates the Healing Read More »
The Cluster B’s (Trauma Glossary 1) are now demanding we stop calling it borderline or narcissistic abuse (because it’s a “mental illness”) and instead, call it “just abuse”. If you think for one minute, honoring this latest campaign will end their internet abuse, think again. I come from the pre-language days of the ’90’s and …
Debunking Their “Just Abuse” Argument: Affirmations to the C-PTSD Community Read More »
If you’ve tried to tell your story about Cluster B (Trauma Glossary 1) abuse anywhere online lately, chances are, you’re familiar with the swarm of hatred and vitriol. You have likely been called an ableist (Trauma Glossary 1) for demonizing a “mental illness”. To the outside observer, they are “just trolls” and the best way …
The Bastardization of Ableism: Complex-PTSD Advocates vs. Grifters Read More »
As if those who victim shame in your personal life aren’t enough, the world wide web has blown the doors wide open. The very thing that happened in childhood adversity is being played out on a grand scale. Once again, the abusers have assumed control. This time, it’s across social media. They flood the comments …
The Rise of the Abuser’s Culture: A History Lesson Read More »
Victim Shamers are those who have more sympathy for the abuser than the victim. They are the ones who have excuses for abusers and will make the victim feel responsible for the abuser’s behavior. It’s enough to make any survivor of Cluster B (Trauma Glossary 1) abuse feel just as attacked by their community as …
Victim Shamers: 5 Types in Your Community and How to Deal with Them Read More »
