To understand our goals, we must first understand the major problems we tend to have as survivors of childhood trauma. Have you ever come across the term, interpersonal trauma? You can also think of it as an attachment trauma. When we are abused, abandoned, neglected, or betrayed by someone who is supposed to care for …
Interpersonal Trauma is the No Closure Wound Read More »
Hello trauma warriors! My name is Jaena and I run this site. I am also a reformed book hoarder. I started my “collection” in 1996 and it swiftly consumed my life. It wouldn’t be until 2019 when I would take control of it, removing forty-six boxes of books from my home and donating them to …
Confessions of a Reformed Book Hoarder: A Heal-Along with Jaena Read More »
When we think of hoarding, the television show Hoarders usually comes to mind. Inside the hoarder’s home are huge piles of random junk which have taken over all living spaces. And if you’ve seen even one episode of this show, you know what happens when the intervention team arrives. The moment they remove one useless …
Hoarding as an Attachment Disorder Read More »
These visual aids are an overview of the series I wrote a while back on our attachment styles. Three weeks’ worth of articles (which I will link as we go) condensed into “flashcards” of the main points. (Well, four if you count the fun one we did. When we analyzed The Break-Up movie (2006) as …
Attachment Styles, Our Outer World, and the Inner Child Wound Read More »
The Break-up was a 2006 comedy starring Jennifer Aniston (as Brooke) and Vince Vaughn (as Gary). What’s most brilliant about this film is, it’s a case study of the doomed romance between opposite attachment styles. Brooke’s character is the Anxious Style, while Gary’s character is the Avoidant Style. What could possibly go wrong for these …
The Break-up (2006 Movie) A Cautionary Tale of Anxious and Avoidant Read More »
The avoidant attachment style has a bad reputation. That’s because narcissistic personality disorder happens to have this attachment style too. Does this mean that everyone with the avoidant style is a narcissist? Certainly not. In fact, of both anxious and avoidant attachment styles, there is a distinction between how the cluster B personality disorders respond …
Avoidant Attachment Style: It’s the Fear of Intimacy Read More »
Online quizzes on “What’s my attachment style?” vary in names. If you’ve scored ambivalent or preoccupied, you have an anxious attachment style. One common misconception with this style is that they are preoccupied with getting into a relationship. When actually, they can come off as one who is confident and independent when they are single. …
Anxious, Ambivalent, and Preoccupied: It’s the Same Attachment Style Read More »
Secure base? What is that? It comes from attachment theory, and it has everything to do with…well, everything. A secure base is key to forming a secure attachment and, the stronger our secure base is, the better equipped we are for taking on life’s challenges: our internal locus of control. Think about it, when we …
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