Our emotions are our signals for meeting our needs. Our uncomfortable emotions are simply telling us that one of those are unmet. When we understand what our emotions want, we can learn how to work with them instead of against them. These visual aids are a wrap up to the past five weeks, where we …
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No one likes guilt or shame. There is nothing humbler than having to admit we were wrong. There is nothing more painful than believing we are fatally flawed. But without guilt or shame, we would have no conscience and no moral code. Together, they help us understand right versus wrong so that we can develop …
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Grieving is when we give ourselves permission to cry over a problem. Sadness is what we feel before we grieve, but we don’t always grant ourselves permission. Sadness is the emotion we easily push away, especially in today’s hectic life. When more urgent, high energy emotions, like anger or anxiety have our attention, it’s hard …
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This heal-along is a companion to my article on the benefits of Sadness and Grief. Ironically, it’s a bit of a sequel to my last heal-along, where I shared the story of my year of rage flashbacks and how they helped me rewire my self-abandonment (Trauma Glossary 2) programming. What happened on New Year’s Eve …
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If you have complex-PTSD, you’re all too familiar with fear and its brainchildren: anxiety and dread. We have more than our share of problems responding to stress, and such feelings tend to aggravate them. It causes us to worry, ruminate, and panic over that which we have no control over. This is the very thing …
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No one likes uncomfortable emotions, such as anger, sadness, fear, and shame. In the CPTSD community, we tend to experience one of “Trauma’s Big Four” more often than the others and use it to define us. Having a lot of anger gets translated into “I’m such an angry person!” Or conversely fear, “I’m scared of …
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