Leaving an abuser can be dangerous. Divorcing one tends to be exhausting. That’s because the abuser becomes the most unstable when the victim – who they view as their property – breaks free from their control. That’s why we often see divorces from these high-conflict people drag on for years. Taylor’s story is no exception. …
Exposing the Messages My Abuser Left Me: A Survivor Shares Read More »
Suicide theater, false reporting, and abuse. We are all aware of abuse, even if not everyone knows of the abuses that don’t leave bruises. False reporting is, as its name implies, making false claims of abuse. It has the power to ruin innocent lives, particularly when the false reporter is filing their claim with law …
Suicide Theater, False Reporting, and Abuse: A Survivor’s Tell-All Read More »
Escaping coercive control tends to be even more perilous than living in it. For one thing, there’s a science behind the reason we see domestic violence victims return to their abusers several times before they leave for good. If they leave at all. And the other thing is how the abuser tends to pose the …
Escaping Coercive Control: An Interview with a Survivor Read More »
Meet Taylor and her partner, Don, happily together for five years now. Canada is their home, where they run a farm together. Taylor has autism. She is also a survivor of domestic violence from her ex-husband who had BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder Trauma Glossary 1). Having been well acquainted with her beautiful mind for over …
Autism vs. BPD: The Stark Contrasts in Neurodivergence Read More »
Death of a loved one, a relationship ending, or loss of a job are life-changing events that can be devastating. When grieving a major loss, we tend to feel more than just sad. We may also feel fear, anger, shame, guilt, abandonment, or we may even get defensive. But in times like these, there is …
Grieving a Major Loss: An IFS Heal-Along Interview Read More »
Kelley McCord is back again this week! This time, she is talking about how the days that followed her brother’s death led to going no contact. If you have been following Kelley’s saga these past two weeks, you know that her mother has ruined many lives. In Kelley’s first interview, we learned how her mother, …
3 Days to No Contact: Daughter Shares What Happened Read More »
Kelley McCord is back with us this week. In case you missed her debut interview, it’s here. Last week, the focus was on how Kelley’s borderline mother (Trauma Glossary 1 – who she has nicknamed Egg Donor) committed serial parental alienation. Against husband numbers one, two, and three! It should come as no surprise that …
She Made His Death All About Her: An Interview Read More »
Parental alienation is when one parent intentionally manipulates their child against their other parent. It’s most common in “high-conflict” custody battles. (High-conflict divorce, by the way, is courtroom code for divorcing a Cluster B disorder – Trauma Glossary 1.) Petty vengeance is usually the motive. So is jealousy. It’s as though the “high conflict” parent …
Parental Alienation: Daughter of a Repeat Offender Speaks Out Read More »
As a staunch advocate for complex-PTSD and having complex-PTSD, myself, I can tell you that I have endured every type of abuse, except overt sexual abuse. While hooray for small favors is in order, it does put me in a learning deficit. I’ve heard countless stories of child abuse over the years. Adult survivors have …
Understanding Sexual Abuse: An Interview with an Advocate Read More »
Last week’s article was a thorough how-to on going no contact with toxic parents (here). I asked my group members if there was anything that hit home for them. Then I followed up by asking if they wanted to share their anonymous experiences. Five volunteered, but what truly surprised me was that their stories had …
Love Bombing, Parental Betrayal, and the Trauma Bond: A Group Interview Read More »
