Today and for the next four weeks I want to do a series on each cluster B personality disorder. My argument has been that we need to move away from calling it narcissistic abuse and move towards calling it cluster B abuse. If we only settle on one dangerous personality disorder, we forget about the …
Narcissistic Personality Disorder Part 1: The 9 Criteria Read More »
We are back with Part 2 on narcissistic personality disorder. In Part 1 (here) we went through the 9 criteria for narcissistic personality disorder and examples of what they mean. We talked about the niching down narcissist who has found a specific area in their life to feed their addiction for narcissistic supply – explaining …
NPD Part 2: The Comorbid Narcissist Read More »
Today I want to talk to you about the Cluster B personality disorders: Narcissistic, Histrionic, Borderline, and Anti-Social. There’s one more you might not have heard of because it was removed at the publication of DSM 5. It’s Passive-Aggressive Personality Disorder. Just because it was removed doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist. My argument is that …
The 10 Traits All Cluster B Disorders Have Read More »
This article explores the Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) in context of Narcissistic Supply (NS) and its distinct primary and secondary forms. It contrasts how the NPD differs from non-disordered people in their need for and pursuit of NS. Normal and Pathological Narcissistic Supply NS is a term used to describe both a basic and universal …
The Nature of Narcissistic Supply – Primary vs Secondary Read More »
The Case For Maintaining Stigma and Judgement of BPD Behavior Cluster B individuals all deny obvious realities as part of their mind games. In BPD in particular, this takes the shape of insisting that things happened in a way that they feel justifies their intense emotions and abusive temper tantrums. These are not unconscious acts, …
BPD – My Feelings ARE the Facts Read More »
We hear of the domestic violence victim who stays or keeps going back to their abuser. And until we understand coercive control, we will keep asking, Why can’t they just leave? We are asking the wrong question. The victim is free to leave at any time in the physical sense. But coercive control is psychological …
Coercive Control is the Reason They Can’t “Just Leave” Read More »
Forgiving someone for a mistake is beautiful. It shows acknowledgement that we all make mistakes and we can relate to it in some way. However, a lifetime of intentional cruelty is not a mistake. If we cannot imagine treating others the way that someone treated us, forgiveness tends to feel like the F-word. The truth …
Toxic Forgiveness Stagnates the Healing Read More »
The third article in this series to help raise awareness for children who are currently living in an abusive home. My group members, all of whom are adult survivors of child abuse, have been helping me by supplying their testimonies. Each article has addressed what an abusive home looks like to those on the outside …
“Why Didn’t They Tell?” 5 Reasons Abused Children Stay Silent Read More »
We hear this in crime documentaries after the tragedy: “I thought their parents were just (choose your adjective).“ Be it the murdered child or the child who, seeing no alternative, takes matters into their own hands. Both are equally tragic. The red flags were there the whole time, they only became obvious in hindsight. The …
“But I Thought Their Parents Were Just…” How to Question What We See Read More »
Mainstream media would have us believe that those who act out are the only ones living in an adverse home. Thanks to the so-called “trained professionals” throwing around the over-generalization that “Hurt people hurt people,” we have only one clue. This is not to say that children who act out are not living in an …
How to Spot a Child Who is Living in an Adverse Home Read More »
