Today and for the next four weeks I want to do a series on each cluster B personality disorder. My argument has been that we need to move away from calling it narcissistic abuse and move towards calling it cluster B abuse. If we only settle on one dangerous personality disorder, we forget about the …
Narcissistic Personality Disorder Part 1: The 9 Criteria Read More »
We are back with Part 2 on narcissistic personality disorder. In Part 1 (here) we went through the 9 criteria for narcissistic personality disorder and examples of what they mean. We talked about the niching down narcissist who has found a specific area in their life to feed their addiction for narcissistic supply – explaining …
NPD Part 2: The Comorbid Narcissist Read More »
Today I want to talk to you about the Cluster B personality disorders: Narcissistic, Histrionic, Borderline, and Anti-Social. There’s one more you might not have heard of because it was removed at the publication of DSM 5. It’s Passive-Aggressive Personality Disorder. Just because it was removed doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist. My argument is that …
The 10 Traits All Cluster B Disorders Have Read More »
The memory keeper is not intentionally holding onto memories, they are simply those whose memories are without blank spots. They are able to recall without effort every trauma that they experienced and what they witnessed happening to others. There tends to be at least one in every dysfunctional family and it’s usually the scapegoat sibling. …
The Memory Keeper of Family Dysfunction Read More »
Trauma attraction is having an attraction to those who make us feel in some way similar to how we felt when we were raised in an adverse home. It’s a failure to see the value in peace. That’s because when we’re raised in chaos, we learn how to cope in chaos. Dissociating was our only …
Trauma Attraction and the Chaotic Nervous System Read More »
This article explores the Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) in context of Narcissistic Supply (NS) and its distinct primary and secondary forms. It contrasts how the NPD differs from non-disordered people in their need for and pursuit of NS. Normal and Pathological Narcissistic Supply NS is a term used to describe both a basic and universal …
The Nature of Narcissistic Supply – Primary vs Secondary Read More »
The Case For Maintaining Stigma and Judgement of BPD Behavior Cluster B individuals all deny obvious realities as part of their mind games. In BPD in particular, this takes the shape of insisting that things happened in a way that they feel justifies their intense emotions and abusive temper tantrums. These are not unconscious acts, …
BPD – My Feelings ARE the Facts Read More »
We hear of the domestic violence victim who stays or keeps going back to their abuser. And until we understand coercive control, we will keep asking, Why can’t they just leave? We are asking the wrong question. The victim is free to leave at any time in the physical sense. But coercive control is psychological …
Coercive Control is the Reason They Can’t “Just Leave” Read More »
Hyper-vigilance is a fear-based state of scanning for threats even in non-threatening situations. We tend to think of threats as the life-threatening kind. However, there are also the sort of threats that won’t hurt us physically and that’s why we often overlook these. We also tend to scan for threats to our emotional, mental, and …
Hyper-Vigilance: The Over-Guarding of the Self Read More »
Setting boundaries and holding firm to them is the greatest challenge in our Complex-PTSD community. That’s because our self-abandonment programming tends to run our life. Until we do the healing work, of course. You see, behind our programming is toxic shame. And so, when attempting to assert, it tends to trigger a shame spiral, or …
Setting Boundaries and Holding Your Position Read More »
