In chapter 11 of Pete Walker’s book, Complex-PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving, he briefly describes the symptoms of blocked emotions. It’s under the subsection, Crying and Angering in Concert. Blink, you will miss it. But in those few words, he perfectly describes my ongoing problems with having blocked grief. And after numerous discussions in my …
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Alexithymia is an inability to understand our feelings. While true, most resources define it as emotional blindness, and I do agree. I’m alexithymic, myself. But what I’ve found most helpful on understanding my condition is associating emotional awareness with radio signals. Some come in faint, some are staticky, or we pick up nothing at all. …
Alexithymia: The Broken Emotional Signal Read More »
So, here were are again with another companion article. I do these whenever I have a personal story that can help shed further light on our main topic. Since this week’s topic is on Alexithymia, what it is, how it develops, and (as always) what we can do about it, I have my own experiences …
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Depersonalization is a deadened emotional state. It’s an abrupt disconnection from the Self because we feel detached from our thoughts, feelings, and our own bodies. We feel like an outside observer watching someone else walking around in our bodies and making decisions for us. And they aren’t always actions we would normally choose, if only …
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Dissociative AD (Attachment Disorder) is an intentional attachment to activities that take us out of the present. In other words, it’s a conscious choice and we have control over it. When we think of dissociating we usually think of the mind going blank suddenly and without warning. Like someone yanked the plug, the brain shuts …
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The third article in this series to help raise awareness for children who are currently living in an abusive home. My group members, all of whom are adult survivors of child abuse, have been helping me by supplying their testimonies. Each article has addressed what an abusive home looks like to those on the outside …
“Why Didn’t They Tell?” 5 Reasons Abused Children Stay Silent Read More »
We hear this in crime documentaries after the tragedy: “I thought their parents were just (choose your adjective).“ Be it the murdered child or the child who, seeing no alternative, takes matters into their own hands. Both are equally tragic. The red flags were there the whole time, they only became obvious in hindsight. The …
“But I Thought Their Parents Were Just…” How to Question What We See Read More »
Mainstream media would have us believe that those who act out are the only ones living in an adverse home. Thanks to the so-called “trained professionals” throwing around the over-generalization that “Hurt people hurt people,” we have only one clue. This is not to say that children who act out are not living in an …
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Repetition compulsion is when we keep getting the same outcome that we never asked for. It seems no matter what we do, no matter how hard we try, we’re right back where we were before. For some, we end up in the same toxic relationships. For others, we keep encountering setbacks each time we try …
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Most of us have heard of the term displacement. It’s when we take our frustrations out on something or someone who had nothing to do with the triggering event. Well, we can think of transference as displacement’s “next of kin” because at first glance, they have core traits in common. Both are the results of …
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