Online quizzes on “What’s my attachment style?” vary in names. If you’ve scored ambivalent or preoccupied, you have an anxious attachment style. One common misconception with this style is that they are preoccupied with getting into a relationship. When actually, they can come off as one who is confident and independent when they are single. …
Anxious, Ambivalent, and Preoccupied: It’s the Same Attachment Style Read More »
Secure base? What is that? It comes from attachment theory, and it has everything to do with…well, everything. A secure base is key to forming a secure attachment and, the stronger our secure base is, the better equipped we are for taking on life’s challenges: our internal locus of control. Think about it, when we …
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Battered child syndrome is another term I intend to add to Trauma Glossary 1. It’s just as real as battered spouse syndrome, and it can be just as deadly as The Burning Bed. When either battered spouse or battered child syndrome sets in, there are only two choices. 1) Succumb to soul death (Trauma Glossary …
Battered Child Syndrome is Real: Justice for Ashlee Martinson Read More »
My case study of the trauma bond are my own experiences with those years. Hopefully, it will provide additional insights into the mind of the abused child. The past three weeks, my group has helped me write the trilogy of articles for raising awareness on abused children. They gave their testimonials for how to spot …
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The third article in this series to help raise awareness for children who are currently living in an abusive home. My group members, all of whom are adult survivors of child abuse, have been helping me by supplying their testimonies. Each article has addressed what an abusive home looks like to those on the outside …
“Why Didn’t They Tell?” 5 Reasons Abused Children Stay Silent Read More »
We hear this in crime documentaries after the tragedy: “I thought their parents were just (choose your adjective).“ Be it the murdered child or the child who, seeing no alternative, takes matters into their own hands. Both are equally tragic. The red flags were there the whole time, they only became obvious in hindsight. The …
“But I Thought Their Parents Were Just…” How to Question What We See Read More »
Mainstream media would have us believe that those who act out are the only ones living in an adverse home. Thanks to the so-called “trained professionals” throwing around the over-generalization that “Hurt people hurt people,” we have only one clue. This is not to say that children who act out are not living in an …
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I was eight years old when I first heard that my paternal grandfather had been married before. She was named Carolyn and her and my grandfather, Campbell had a baby together. I had been told both wife and infant died in a car crash. I dismissed the story as a lie because all I could …
His First Love, Carolyn: My Grandfather’s Recovery from Tragedy Read More »
Repetition compulsion is when we keep getting the same outcome that we never asked for. It seems no matter what we do, no matter how hard we try, we’re right back where we were before. For some, we end up in the same toxic relationships. For others, we keep encountering setbacks each time we try …
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Most of us have heard of the term displacement. It’s when we take our frustrations out on something or someone who had nothing to do with the triggering event. Well, we can think of transference as displacement’s “next of kin” because at first glance, they have core traits in common. Both are the results of …
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