I’m not sure who needs to hear this but processing our trauma is not the same as trauma dumping. Nor does it mean we are dwelling on the past, holding onto it, or anything else the toxic positivity (Trauma Glossary 1) thinkers are saying. In fact, the key to releasing the pain of the past …
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The memory keeper is not intentionally holding onto memories, they are simply those whose memories are without blank spots. They are able to recall without effort every trauma that they experienced and what they witnessed happening to others. There tends to be at least one in every dysfunctional family and it’s usually the scapegoat sibling. …
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Trauma attraction is having an attraction to those who make us feel in some way similar to how we felt when we were raised in an adverse home. It’s a failure to see the value in peace. That’s because when we’re raised in chaos, we learn how to cope in chaos. Dissociating was our only …
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This article explores the Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) in context of Narcissistic Supply (NS) and its distinct primary and secondary forms. It contrasts how the NPD differs from non-disordered people in their need for and pursuit of NS. Normal and Pathological Narcissistic Supply NS is a term used to describe both a basic and universal …
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Empathy makes us people. Empathy is the glue that holds family, friends, towns, and even nations together. It is how we navigate, how we judge right from wrong. Empathy is the core of goodness and its absence is the root cause of evil. Without empathy the link to the common human consciousness is severed – …
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The censorship that’s happening across multiple social media platforms is appalling. First it was Facebook introducing its community standards, followed by Instagram, since it’s Meta owned too. Next came YouTube and then TikTok. Try watching a true crime story these days. You’d better know how to read lips because the content creators can’t say murder, …
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According to the Oxford dictionary, an advocate (noun) is a person who publicly supports or recommends a particular cause or policy. As a verb (actions the advocate takes) the Oxford dictionary says [to] publicly recommend or support. So, it is common sense that those who call themselves an advocate will also back it up with …
An Open Letter to the False Advocates for CPTSD Read More »
In this text I will explore the concept of owning our part in situations and discuss where this powerful tool is appropriate and contrast that to when it becomes the proverbial hammer for every job. Trauma, the commonly resulting addictions, and the world of treating these harms intersect so much that they cannot be well-understood …
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The Grand Gaslit Misunderstanding Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is nearly universally claimed to be misunderstood and stigmatized [1][2][3][4][5][6][7][8]. Scour the internet to your heart’s content, aside from the occasional forum post or comment, you will be very hard pressed to find anybody speaking in seriously negative terms about BPD. Google every permutation trying to find …
A World of Gaslighting – BPD Research Exposed Read More »
Leaving an abuser can be dangerous. Divorcing one tends to be exhausting. That’s because the abuser becomes the most unstable when the victim – who they view as their property – breaks free from their control. That’s why we often see divorces from these high-conflict people drag on for years. Taylor’s story is no exception. …
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