Psychology has come a long way since the 1990’s. New research has brought a more compassionate approach to healing trauma survivors. Gone are the days of the one-size-fits-all treatment plan. Thanks to the trauma informed, we now have multiple treatment options. That’s because psychology today understands that we all have unique needs. And what works …
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The Dunning-Kruger Effect is a cognitive bias in those who are overconfident in their knowledge and abilities. When we believe we know all there is to know about something, we also believe there is nothing new to learn about it. That’s just basic human nature. But in the Dunning-Kruger Effect, they tend to be dismissive …
The Dunning-Kruger Effect: A History Lesson of Psychology Read More »
Forgiving someone for a mistake is beautiful. It shows acknowledgement that we all make mistakes and we can relate to it in some way. However, a lifetime of intentional cruelty is not a mistake. If we cannot imagine treating others the way that someone treated us, forgiveness tends to feel like the F-word. The truth …
Toxic Forgiveness Stagnates the Healing Read More »
Sometimes thoughts get stuck in our heads and then we can’t think of anything else. We know this as ruminating, and it happens to everyone. But in complex trauma, it’s amplified. Not only does it happen more frequently, but the emotional overwhelm keeps us stuck there longer. That’s why ours is called looping in Trauma …
Looping: It’s Ruminating on Steroids Read More »
Repeated exposure to threats teaches us to be hyper-vigilant. When we have no control of these situations, they teach us that there is nothing we can do about it. In other words, learned helplessness. Our experiences teach us how we view ourselves and our outer world. And as par for the course, how much space …
Learned Helplessness: It’s the Fear of Thriving Read More »
Catastrophizing is what I refer to as False Prophet Syndrome. We imagine the worst case scenario and then it feels like a foregone conclusion. We lean into this prophecy, and give it our full attention. How could we not? There’s a threat up ahead! We see it so clearly in our mind’s eye. Terror grips …
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Negative noticing is a type of cognitive distortion. Like its name implies, it means we are overly noticing the negative. This leads to problems that keep us stuck in the same hamster wheel of negative beliefs. Because when we only notice the negative, we will keep “confirming” and “re-confirming” them. Think “sensory filters” because that’s …
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In chapter 11 of Pete Walker’s book, Complex-PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving, he briefly describes the symptoms of blocked emotions. It’s under the subsection, Crying and Angering in Concert. Blink, you will miss it. But in those few words, he perfectly describes my ongoing problems with having blocked grief. And after numerous discussions in my …
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So, here were are again with another companion article. I do these whenever I have a personal story that can help shed further light on our main topic. Since this week’s topic is on Alexithymia, what it is, how it develops, and (as always) what we can do about it, I have my own experiences …
My Alexithymia Journey: A Heal-Along with Jaena Read More »
Alexithymia is an inability to understand our feelings. While true, most resources define it as emotional blindness, and I do agree. I’m alexithymic, myself. But what I’ve found most helpful on understanding my condition is associating emotional awareness with radio signals. Some come in faint, some are staticky, or we pick up nothing at all. …
Alexithymia: The Broken Emotional Signal Read More »
