A visual guide through two weeks’ worth of articles. Using both Radical Acceptance and Poised Readiness. This is how we can escape the ripple effect of soul death and break free from the vicious cycle.
An overview of vocabulary words from Poised Readiness: How to Defeat Procrastination in 5 Steps. Both Learned Helplessness and Shame Spiral can be found in Trauma Glossary 2.
Next, we have an overview of the Vicious Cycle of the “3” P’s. There are really 5 P’s in all, but a keyword search for the vicious cycle of the 5 P’s won’t yield great results; however, the 3 P’s will.
Procrastination and Perfectionism have a sort of partnership. The other 3 P’s: Paralysis, People Pleasing, and Preparation are active versus inactive states of manifesting Procrastination. Also including an at a glance understanding of what drives each one into staying stuck in the vicious cycle.
Directly above, along with the two proceeding it below are overviews from The Vicious Cycle of the “3” P’s: 3 Radical Acceptance Steps to Break Free.
Below is an overview of how we turn our fears into actionable (or unactionable) behavior. This is the very thing that creates the same outcome and keeps us stuck in the vicious cycle. Executive Dysfunction can be found in Trauma Glossary 2. Mental Paralysis, or mild aphasia is an example of our Broca’s Area disconnecting. (Trauma Glossary 3: section 1 under Cerebral Cortex)
Where People Pleasing is concerned, I showed a great example of this in last week’s article. Two pictures’ worth of everyone assuring me that there was nothing wrong with my wall art. Then that ONE person commented and I suddenly couldn’t wait to get their approval.
I have plenty of experience with Preparation too, though I didn’t divulge on that in either article. As a trauma response, I developed the most intense mental processing addiction (Trauma Glossary 2) in history (also known as obsessive research). I also had one rigid daily routine. The problem was, if any “wrench” was thrown into my meticulously laid plans, I had no idea how to handle it. I simply cursed fate and resigned myself in anger.
Below are the three most important Radical Acceptance steps we need to take in order to break free from the vicious cycle.
Below is the formula that developed out of my Frederick Douglass comic book. This was the very one I used at age 16 that pulled me out of soul death and my suicidal ideation (Trauma Glossary 2). It saved my life, and I wasn’t even aware I was using it!
Below is from this week’s article. How Poised Readiness can serve as a bridge between Radical Acceptance and developing resiliency. It helps us reframe our thoughts while helping us fully accept that life happens and it will continue to happen. But it doesn’t define us.
Finally, how Poised Readiness reframes our thoughts out of the vicious cycle. See how Poised Readiness stacks up against Procrastination?
In short, both start with two important self-talks that determine our actions and our outcome. Will we say “I am less than and therefore, I must improve” or will we separate our identity from the event and say “I’m good enough now”?
To understand even more about how our experiences impact how we see ourselves and our outer world, check out the visual aid I made on how our memories affect us. Because when we (Procrastinate Step 5) give up, we start the cycle all over again. It’s how we create more and more memories that “confirm” our belief that we can’t.