Escaping coercive control tends to be even more perilous than living in it. For one thing, there’s a science behind the reason we see domestic violence victims return to their abusers several times before they leave for good. If they leave at all. And the other thing is how the abuser tends to pose the …
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Meet Taylor and her partner, Don, happily together for five years now. Canada is their home, where they run a farm together. Taylor has autism. She is also a survivor of domestic violence from her ex-husband who had BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder Trauma Glossary 1). Having been well acquainted with her beautiful mind for over …
Autism vs. BPD: The Stark Contrasts in Neurodivergence Read More »
Many who experience trauma, particularly when it is severe and prolonged, feel alienated from both themselves and from the rest of the world. It is a phenomenon that appears inherent to complex trauma, but one outside factor acts as a multiplier – the failure of others to appropriately empathize and relate to the reality of …
Trauma and Alienation – The Danger of Collective Cowardice Read More »
Arguing meaningful matters with a Cluster B Disorder leaves people with a feeling of confusion. It’s like holding onto an eel, like trying to pin down air, like seeing the naked emperor whose clothes everybody else is gushing over. The experience of being on the receiving end of cluster B argumentation has a distinct nature …
Cluster Arguments and Denialism – The Emperor’s Catwalk Read More »
Evil has always existed throughout history and it will continue existing. One doesn’t have to be a spiritual believer to understand this fundamental truth. And yet we don’t often hear this word today. Why? It’s because the process of rebranding evil has been going on for so long, usage of the term is becoming the …
Rebranding Evil and the Abuser’s Culture Propaganda Read More »
The Case For Maintaining Stigma and Judgement of BPD Behavior Cluster B individuals all deny obvious realities as part of their mind games. In BPD in particular, this takes the shape of insisting that things happened in a way that they feel justifies their intense emotions and abusive temper tantrums. These are not unconscious acts, …
BPD – My Feelings ARE the Facts Read More »
We hear of the domestic violence victim who stays or keeps going back to their abuser. And until we understand coercive control, we will keep asking, Why can’t they just leave? We are asking the wrong question. The victim is free to leave at any time in the physical sense. But coercive control is psychological …
Coercive Control is the Reason They Can’t “Just Leave” Read More »
“Less and more?” you may ask. “Don’t you mean less is more?” Well, if this was a topic on minimalism, we would be discussing the latter. However, this is a tool for increasing our bandwidth to see our goals as more within our reach. First we declutter the mind and address, “What is it I …
Less and More: A Self-Exploration Tool for Improving Habits Read More »
I spoke of the healing powers of creativity and how to unlock your own last week. One sure sign of healing is when our creativity starts to flourish. But in what direction varies from person to person. Just as no two healing journeys are the same, the same applies to our creative journey. So, since …
My Creative Journey So Far: A Heal-Along with Jaena Read More »
Maximize creativity does not mean perfecting a skill. At least, not where healing is concerned. It’s safely practicing new things, recovering from mistakes, and learning to associate our creative lessons with life. Not all healing work has to feel like work. In fact, this article addresses the magical healing powers of right-brain work. Creativity, that …
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