“Your Labs Are Normal”: How Doctors Are Misdiagnosing Trauma Survivors

“They told me gaining 60 pounds in a month was ‘within the realm of normal.’”
That’s what Gwen was told after she begged for answers. She ate one meal a day. She returned to the doctor again and again, insisting something was wrong. But like so many trauma survivors misdiagnosed by doctors, she was told her labs were fine. She was dismissed. And she was left to unravel a health crisis that medicine couldn’t name.

They ran the same thyroid test four times. Nothing changed. When she finally demanded a full hormone panel? A few results came back flagged—just barely outside the “normal” range. So they shrugged and sent her home.

It wasn’t until years later that she realized what was actually happening: her body was collapsing from years of trauma. She was living in adrenal fatigue. Her thyroid was shot; her salt levels were off; her asthma was flaring. And no one believed her.

“I was trained to diagnose vehicles,” Gwen said. “And I can tell you this: doctors suck at diagnostics. They only know how to throw pills at symptoms.”

What Gwen was experiencing has no official name in the medical field. And that’s exactly the problem. She’s not alone.

What Is Coercive Control?

Coercive control is a form of invisible abuse—a slow, insidious domination tactic that rewires the survivor’s biology without leaving a mark. It includes gaslighting, intimidation, micromanagement, isolation, and ongoing emotional neglect.

Common contexts:

• Domestic abuse (with or without physical violence)
• Childhood emotional abuse
• High-control religion or workplace environments

[Read more: What is Coercive Control?]

Trauma Doesn’t Just Hurt. It Hijacks Your Body.

Here’s what coercive control does to your biology:

• Nervous system: stuck in panic or collapse mode
• HPA Axis: cortisol chaos = exhaustion and immune dysfunction
• Brain chemistry: dopamine hijacked, oxytocin suppressed, serotonin depleted
• Body: chronic pain, inflammation, gut issues, hormonal havoc

Gwen described it perfectly: “Diet and exercise advice actually made things worse. Exercise was triggering more stress. I had to test supplements one by one just to figure out what worked.”

This is what trauma-informed medicine should be addressing—but it isn’t.

Why Doctors Keep Saying “Everything Looks Normal”

1. Standard lab panels don’t go deep enough. They don’t check cortisol rhythms, HRV, or inflammation markers linked to trauma.
2. They’re not trained in trauma physiology. Physicians treat symptoms they can see. Trauma lives in systems they don’t understand.
3. Psychology and medicine rarely collaborate. Therapists can’t order labs. Doctors ignore therapist reports. The left hand doesn’t know the right hand is on fire.

“All they know how to do is write a script for a symptom,” Gwen said. “They failed me. I had to become my own damn doctor.”

This pattern is what leads so many trauma survivors to be labeled anxious, depressed, or even delusional—when in fact, they’re the latest in a long line of trauma survivors misdiagnosed by doctors.

When Trauma Looks Like “Crazy”: The Misdiagnosis Crisis

It’s not just that doctors are missing trauma. It’s that they’re actively replacing it with the wrong diagnosis.

Survivors of coercive control or childhood trauma are commonly misdiagnosed with:

• Bipolar Disorder – when they’re actually in trauma-related mood swings, cortisol crashes, or emotional flashbacks.
• Psychotic Disorder – when their freeze-state, derealization, or paranoid trauma responses are neurobiological survival responses, not schizophrenia.
• Borderline Personality Disorder – when the actual root is unresolved childhood trauma with zero support or safe attachment.
• ADHD or OCD – when what they’re dealing with is chronic hypervigilance, control adaptations, and executive function hijacking.

And here’s the kicker: Medical doctors often hand out these psych diagnoses like Halloween candy— without collaborating with a psychologist or trauma-informed provider.

So let me ask this clearly: What right do they have to hand out psychiatric labels if they’re going to turn around and dismiss the entire field of trauma psychology as “not my lane”? They should either partner with the field—or stay the hell out of it.

They Don’t Know They’re Abused (Yet)

Many trauma survivors don’t even realize they’re being abused.

Why? Because trauma affects the brain. Coercive control suppresses oxytocin, depletes serotonin, and hijacks executive function. Childhood trauma fragments memory and trains children to normalize abuse. Adults raised in it often don’t have the language to name what they survived.

That’s why primary care doctors must become the front line of trauma awareness.

They should be:

• Offering the ACE+ test to patients with chronic symptoms
• Gently inviting high-risk patients to take a validated “Abusive Partner” quiz

These aren’t diagnostic tools—they’re wake-up tools. And they save lives.

But asking the right questions is just the first step. Most survivors who say “yes” will walk out with a pamphlet—and no tests ordered to assess what abuse has done to their body.

One DV survivor told me it wasn’t until she educated herself on narcissistic abuse that she realized: Oh my God. I’m being abused. And I’ve been married to a man who will never change or get better. She’d spent 33 years with someone who left her brain damaged. If the right tests had been offered years ago, (instead of the doctors throwing valiums and Percocet at her) she believes she would have left sooner—and started healing sooner.

Another survivor I interviewed, [Taylor], was severely underweight for years and no doctor could figure out why. Once she left her coercive partner, her weight normalized. That wasn’t magic. That was the body exiting survival mode.

They Ask the Questions—But Then What?

Let’s be clear: the Gabby Petito questions are a step in the right direction. Screening for intimate partner violence (IPV) during routine medical visits was unheard of in many places before her tragic death. So yes—if a medical provider takes the time to ask those questions, they deserve an approving nod.

But that’s all they get. Because asking the right question means nothing if you don’t follow up with the right tests.

If someone says yes—yes, they are (or were) being abused—their nervous system just told you it’s not safe. Their endocrine system is likely dysregulated; their inflammatory markers may be high; and their vagus nerve may be barely hanging on.

And still, most doctors stop at the questions.

My Father Was One of Them

My father was a domestic violence victim. Fifty-two years married to my borderline mother has left him completely soul dead. To date, he has survived two cancer diagnoses, yet somehow he still walks around with a huge beer gut despite not drinking at all. That’s trauma inflammation and cortisol damage. Because that’s what decades of abuse does to the body.

If someone had asked him the Gabby Petito questions—and actually followed up with trauma-specific medical tests—he might not be where he is today: destroyed. And this is why I fight so hard to put an end to trauma survivors misdiagnosed by doctors and therapists who are using gender bias. Absolutely no one deserves my father’s fate.

What Must Change to STOP Trauma Survivors Misdiagnosed by Doctors

Medical systems must catch up with trauma science. And first? We need to call it what it is.

There is no official name yet for the complex, chronic collapse caused by coercive trauma. That’s how far behind the medical field is. But here are a few names I propose we consider:

Proposed Diagnostic Labels:

• Chronic Coercive Trauma Syndrome (CCTS)
• Neurobiological Trauma Dysregulation (NTD)
• Trauma-Induced Physiological Collapse (TIPC)
• Battered Child Syndrome (revived and expanded)
• Battered Spouse Syndrome (updated to include coercive control)
• Complex Trauma Somatic Disorder (CTSD)

We need a name. Because with a name comes recognition, research, and real support.

Tests That Should Be Run for Trauma Survivors Misdiagnosed by Doctors

• HRV testing (Heart Rate Variability): HRV measures the variation in time between heartbeats—a direct reflection of autonomic nervous system health. Low HRV is often seen in trauma survivors stuck in fight, flight, or freeze. Tracking HRV helps identify dysregulation and monitor healing progress.
• Cortisol panels (multiple-point saliva tests): Unlike a single blood draw, this test tracks cortisol rhythms throughout the day. Survivors often show flattened or reversed cortisol curves, reflecting burnout or collapse.
• Inflammation markers (like CRP and cytokine panels): Chronic trauma often drives low-grade inflammation, which underlies everything from fatigue and brain fog to autoimmune symptoms.
• Trauma-informed intake forms and narrative history: Instead of checkbox symptoms, give survivors a way to describe their lived experience. Story matters. Patterns matter. Context matters.
• Functional referrals between doctors, therapists, and somatic practitioners: Healing trauma is multidisciplinary. The sooner we stop pretending it isn’t, the better outcomes we’ll see.

Heads up: This is just the warm-up. The full buffet of trauma-wreckage tests (plus receipts and citations from real science) is waiting at the end of this article. Because yes—your biology is not making this up.

Survivors shouldn’t have to earn honorary PhDs in biology just to save themselves.

Gwen said it best: “I figured if the whole medical field failed me and almost killed me a couple times, I better arm myself with some info.”

A Note From the Author, Jaena

This article began as a white paper—an earnest attempt to encourage trauma-informed testing protocols for medical professionals. But then Gwen told me her story. And the gloves came off.

She showed me what many survivors already know: they don’t care.

So this is no longer a polite proposal. This is a demand. Because history has shown us one thing: When those who should care don’t, you MAKE them care.

Agitate, Agitate, Agitate.
(Thank you, Frederick Douglass, for the marching orders.)

I have never done this in all my years writing for this site. But now I’m asking you directly:

💥 Share this article.
Someone you know is being dismissed by their doctor right now.
Let’s save a life.

Final Word

Coercive control is invisible, but its effects are not.

Survivors are living with brain fog, chronic pain, gut dysfunction, autoimmune flares, adrenal crashes, emotional flashbacks, and dissociation. Many don’t even know they’re trauma survivors yet.

The medical system is failing them by not looking deeper.

To every doctor, nurse, and provider reading this: First—thank you for reading this far. That tells me you do care. And for that, you have my respect.

But to the rest of the system, hear this clearly: It should not be up to trauma survivors to tell you how to do your job. But here we are.

Too many trauma survivors misdiagnosed by doctors have already paid the price for this neglect. Run the tests. Ask the questions. Make the invisible visible. Because trauma survivors aren’t hysterical. They’re injured. And they deserve to be seen.

Author’s update: The testing section of this article is currently being revised. I still stand by the core message: trauma can affect the nervous system, endocrine system, immune system, gut, inflammation, and overall health, and survivors deserve medical care that does not dismiss real symptoms as “just anxiety.”

I am currently rebuilding the test list with clearer language, stronger citations, and better distinctions between well-supported assessments, symptom-guided medical screening, and emerging tools. This article will remain live because the survivor stories and systemic problem still matter.