The third article in this series to help raise awareness for children who are currently living in an abusive home. My group members, all of whom are adult survivors of child abuse, have been helping me by supplying their testimonies. Each article has addressed what an abusive home looks like to those on the outside …
“Why Didn’t They Tell?” 5 Reasons Abused Children Stay Silent Read More »
We hear this in crime documentaries after the tragedy: “I thought their parents were just (choose your adjective).“ Be it the murdered child or the child who, seeing no alternative, takes matters into their own hands. Both are equally tragic. The red flags were there the whole time, they only became obvious in hindsight. The …
“But I Thought Their Parents Were Just…” How to Question What We See Read More »
Mainstream media would have us believe that those who act out are the only ones living in an adverse home. Thanks to the so-called “trained professionals” throwing around the over-generalization that “Hurt people hurt people,” we have only one clue. This is not to say that children who act out are not living in an …
How to Spot a Child Who is Living in an Adverse Home Read More »
Repetition compulsion is when we keep getting the same outcome that we never asked for. It seems no matter what we do, no matter how hard we try, we’re right back where we were before. For some, we end up in the same toxic relationships. For others, we keep encountering setbacks each time we try …
Repetition Compulsion: The Hamster Wheel of Fate Read More »
Most of us have heard of the term displacement. It’s when we take our frustrations out on something or someone who had nothing to do with the triggering event. Well, we can think of transference as displacement’s “next of kin” because at first glance, they have core traits in common. Both are the results of …
Transference: How Unprocessed Trauma Finds an Outlet Read More »
We all have some degree of cognitive bias. It gives us our fundamental beliefs, after all. We need that foundation to interpret information so that we can understand it. That’s because to function in our day-to-day life, we must make sense of ourselves and our place in the world. So, when confronted by a new …
Cognitive Bias to Cognitive Dissonance: How Our Beliefs Direct Our Lives Read More »
Our beliefs direct our lives and cognitive bias is one of the ways we develop our beliefs. The two most extreme types of cognitive bias are impostor syndrome (Trauma Glossary 2) and the Dunning-Kruger Effect. Of course we don’t all live in one extreme or the other. But as we kick off this brand new …
Cognitive Bias: Impostor Syndrome and its Counterpart, the Dunning-Kruger Effect Read More »
Last week’s article was a thorough how-to on going no contact with toxic parents (here). I asked my group members if there was anything that hit home for them. Then I followed up by asking if they wanted to share their anonymous experiences. Five volunteered, but what truly surprised me was that their stories had …
Love Bombing, Parental Betrayal, and the Trauma Bond: A Group Interview Read More »
Good for you on finding this article! It means that you’re finally considering what you need instead of what your abuser needs. But finding this article also means you have many questions, which I will cover. You may wonder what no contact means and whether or not you are ready. You need to know how …
How to Go No Contact with Your Toxic Parent Read More »
The Cluster B’s (Trauma Glossary 1) are now demanding we stop calling it borderline or narcissistic abuse (because it’s a “mental illness”) and instead, call it “just abuse”. If you think for one minute, honoring this latest campaign will end their internet abuse, think again. I come from the pre-language days of the ’90’s and …
Debunking Their “Just Abuse” Argument: Affirmations to the C-PTSD Community Read More »
