For most of us, we tend to be adults once we learn that we have Complex-PTSD. And as adults slammed with this diagnosis, we also tend to be busy handling our adult responsibilities. We have jobs, home maintenance, errands to run, and if we have kids, we have even more adult responsibilities. We certainly want …
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In our Complex-PTSD community, we tend to get excited when we find the right tools. Our first instinct is to share what works with everyone else. It’s certainly well-meaning. We just want to save others the time and trouble it took us to find it. But we forget the time and trouble was what led …
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When processing our trauma, there are three things we must practice. Mindfulness, Grounding, and building and maintaining our Window of Tolerance. Mindfulness means being present and aware of the moment. Grounding helps us feel fully present inside our bodies by using our five senses. So, put it together, it’s presence of both mind and body. …
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To understand our goals, we must first understand the major problems we tend to have as survivors of childhood trauma. Have you ever come across the term, interpersonal trauma? You can also think of it as an attachment trauma. When we are abused, abandoned, neglected, or betrayed by someone who is supposed to care for …
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So, you got your “starter pack” from last week’s article and you’re ready to navigate the healing journey? Well, grab your compass because healing complex trauma is never straight and narrow. What sort of compass, you may ask, because surely we aren’t going on a literal hike or something? And you’re right. We are embarking …
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One night on Instagram, a beautiful soul from my Complex-PTSD community asked, How do I heal from this? It was a humbling moment because the answer can’t be summed up in a single comment. It was also a reminder that I asked the same question when I began my healing journey. We all ask this …
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Death of a loved one, a relationship ending, or loss of a job are life-changing events that can be devastating. When grieving a major loss, we tend to feel more than just sad. We may also feel fear, anger, shame, guilt, abandonment, or we may even get defensive. But in times like these, there is …
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Last week’s heal-along was my example of how to heal our parts when access to the Exile is denied. This one is my IFS work on freeing one of my Exiles. And so, it’s a companion piece to our third article in this IFS series, which is on healing the Exile (here). Interestingly enough, the …
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This is a companion article to this week’s topic in our IFS therapy series. That article is on Polarized Parts, what they are and how you can mediate your own. Now I’m sharing the work I’ve done with my own Polarized Parts. From how I discovered them, to how I got to know them, to …
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Check out our featured image for a moment, because it’s a great analogy. We have all seen the classic angel on one shoulder and the devil on the other. Both being polar opposites of the ethereal realm, they naturally despise each other. And they are fighting for the owner of those shoulders to “Pick me!” …
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