Once we get the Protectors’ permission to examine the Exile, we need to know what we should expect. Healing the Exile is a process of first Witnessing its pain, then three R’s: Reparent, Retrieve, and Release its burdens. But before we start, we must be mindful of IFS rule #1: always be in Self when …
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So, you’re ready to accept the unique weirdness of IFS therapy so that you can understand yourself on the deepest level imaginable. You’re in the right place because that’s what we will be covering here. How to open up a dialogue with our parts and understand each part’s positive intent. This is a continuation of …
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Where trauma informed therapies are concerned, there tends to be an unspoken rule. That the weirder the therapy, the more highly effective. So, when I say that IFS therapy is so weird, it’s downright woo, I’m also saying how effective it is. If you’ve ever wondered “Why do I do some of the things that …
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As I’ve said before, whenever I have a personal experience that goes with a topic we are covering, I share. It’s a great way to connect with my readers on a personal level. And since we tend to learn from each other’s stories, I like to think that my heal-alongs can do that. Since we …
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There are eight phases of EMDR. But do any of us fully know what they mean from a keyword search? Well, in this article I’m giving you a full rundown on what they are and what you should expect. In last week’s article, I answered the most commonly asked questions. The various tools the therapist …
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EMDR stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing. You may wonder, what does the first half (eye movement) have to do with the second half? Well, when we are in a deep sleep, our eyes move back and forth, especially while dreaming. We call this REM (Rapid Eye Movement). The theory holds that we are …
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There’s no doubt that psychology has made great advances over the years. Many have contributed to how we view trauma and to creating more effective treatments. But research will always be ongoing, and on that we can also agree. So, when we forget that our leading contributors don’t have all the answers, we tend to …
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Trauma survivors need a trauma informed therapist. My last article supplied you with your “bill of rights” as a client and everything you should expect from this type of therapy. It reads like a series of green flags for great therapy. But not all therapists who claim to be trauma informed use the principles behind …
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Psychology has come a long way since the 1990’s. New research has brought a more compassionate approach to healing trauma survivors. Gone are the days of the one-size-fits-all treatment plan. Thanks to the trauma informed, we now have multiple treatment options. That’s because psychology today understands that we all have unique needs. And what works …
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The Dunning-Kruger Effect is a cognitive bias in those who are overconfident in their knowledge and abilities. When we believe we know all there is to know about something, we also believe there is nothing new to learn about it. That’s just basic human nature. But in the Dunning-Kruger Effect, they tend to be dismissive …
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